May 3rd, 2008 | dating, relationship | No Comments
Did you want to get rid of your date as soon as possible? It’s easy. Just whining in front of your date, then you don’t need 10 days to lose your date. You may need less than that. But what is whining? Dr. Joy Brown explain That whining is the obnoxious, nasal complaining that serves no purpose other than to say, “Pay attention to me because I’m helpless and weak and irritating, and I can’t get your attention based on strength or knowledge or reason so I’ll drive you crazy by pitching my voice and my grievance in such a way that you’ll do anything to have me stop, but you’ll hate both yourself and me in the morning.”
You may hear this very often in our daily conversation:
“Damn, my boss was killing me!” (Well stop whining and get another job, will you!)
“I just wanna scream, The traffic was horrible!” (Well try to move to a country side, this is a modern city get used to it!)
“I didn’t have enough money to pay the bill, all prices are went up!” (You and the rest of the world feel the same way)
“Damn, my candidate fail on the election” (So, all you have to do is just wait another 4 years)
You see the point of the ‘whining’ concept is not about the complain, but its about the ‘no purpose’ concept. Your date is not a trash can. She or he want to release their stress by going out. Then try to fulfill that to keep your date and relationship.
So, if you have a date, or if you are planning to ask some one out just leave whining to 3-year-olds who don’t want to take a bath. And If you’ve got a legitimate complaint, say it clearly and cogently and respectfully and see what you can do to solve the problem. Because the worse part of whining is because it makes you personality looks helpless and weak. And I can a sure you that no body wants to spend the rest of their live with people who have a helpless and weak character.
May 2nd, 2008 | marriage | No Comments
If you have a small budget for your wedding may be you are afraid that your guests will realize that. But honestly, twenty thousand dollars for the wedding is not necessary. Many couples have done for much less than that.
The important thing
Do you really need a designer clothes? Did you must have a reception in a luxury hotel? The answer for that is no. But some things that you might want to spend money on are for photography and rings. Why? Because these are the two things that stay in touch with you long after the wedding day, so these are things that should be number one on your planning list.
A cheaper ceremony
If you can have an outdoor ceremony, then that may be the least costly way to go. Not only that they are able to take the advantage of nature, but mostly, it will be free of charge. Things that may work are parks and botanical gardens, a friend’s courtyard, and the beaches. Of course, these are rather dependent on the weather, so you need to have a backup plan as well.
Do it on the same spot
The best way to keep your costs low is that make the wedding ceremony and reception on the same area. Even if you have to pay a fee, then it only once. Another way to reduce costs is to have a light reception afternoon cocktail hour, instead of dinner. It can serve snacks and drinks instead of a meal face.
You do not necessarily need a band to keep the fun going well. Find a good master of ceremony (just choose one of your friend who can do it for free) an equipped your wedding with a nice CD or an MP3 player.
Be creative and look before you leave all the things you need for your wedding. You will be surprised the number of things that can be saved. Made your own programs, decorations, and had in a friend’s house for about three thousand dollars.
Apr 28th, 2008 | dating, relationship, marriage, love | No Comments
Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner constantly complains about you and / or things that you do? Or maybe did they just make subtle comments but you knew they really mean? Because of this complain you may have noticed that you were changing things on you that they have complained about. They may have also threatened to terminate your relationship if you have not changed.
You May have convinced yourself to do exactly what they said because you love them so much and change a little part of you for them would be just fine. But the truth is changing is not psychologically good if you do it because someone else When ever you change anything about yourself for other person, it will have negative consequences. When you change one thing, May you be asked to amend another and another and another until it comes a point where you do anything or say is never good enough. That’s why this kind of relationship will not survive for a long term.
Whatever change you made for someone else but yourself, it will return at some point, because you are, in essence, squashing the spirit of your real personality. And the essence of your true nature, can not and will not be held for a long time.
Most likely, these changes you have made for “love” will turn out to be anger to your partner. If they do not like who you are, is not your problem, it is theirs. Remember that you choose who you want to be with and vice versa And gently remind them that if those things bother them so much, maybe you both should consider the possibility that the relationship won’t work out because you respect yourself. And it means that won’t change to fit someone else idea of what ideal partner should look like. You are who you are and if they do not like it, they do not need to be with you. If they do not love and accept you as you are, do not be afraid to tell them to take a walk .
Above all, be true to yourself body, mind and soul. You will find that the honour and respect you in that way will soon result in attracting and good health, love and fulfilling relationship as you ever dreamed possible.
Apr 13th, 2008 | dating, sex | No Comments
Kiss her lips without touching them (non-Kiss)
Have you seen the movie “Derailed” with Jennifer Aniston and Clive Owens, where he said he could kiss her lips without touching them? Well when women watch that movie, about 80% of them hold their breath and shiver in anticipation (the other 20% say “get it on will you!”) I know it seems odd, but women love the promise, potential and the thrill of anticipation, evidence that the journey is sometimes better than arriving it self.
Press your body against hers (gently).
Ok So you have finally arrived at the moment. Now, pull her body gently, and press your entire body against hers. Slowly! This is the promise, not proof! By using the same principles as the ‘non-kiss, it will tease and not terrorize her.
Go Gentle with the tongue!
Why do guys think most women want a tongue sandwich? Be sure to use your tongue, but use it gently. Do not choke her with it! The tongue can say “the passion, desire and virility” for you, but for her, she might say ‘whoa, waaay too much! ” So let her lead the way. In other words follow her tongue, then gently raise the bid.
Open Lips, Eyes Closed, And Say “Mmmm”
When you talk to her keep in mind that her eyes need to be fully open, but for the kiss, the closing is the way to go. Keep your lips slightly open, warm, and make appreciative noises quietly (no growling, but rather the kind of sigh when you want to drink a good wine - or supping a beer!)
Use your hands wisely
what do you do with your hands? Just flip your hands gently on her back, and then remove yourself from her gently, but firmly. Once again try to follow her lead. Adjust your pressure with hers. It is already tell you everything you need to know, if you listen.
Apr 12th, 2008 | dating, relationship, marriage | No Comments
You probably do not meet people in your ordinary life, or you just not get connected with the right of person. So if you want to meet your man, the first thing that you have to do is decide what you have to offer for your future partner. The second is broadening your circle of friends. Here are the steps on how you do it.
Take a golf course
Golf is a male thing, join them on the course. Men network on the golf course all the time, move forward and make progress to flirt. Even if you are not good in sports, men are more likely to be encouraging to your efforts.
Go to a sport bar in a game night
Why watch major sporting events at home when you can hang out in a sports bar complete with a large screen TV, electronic games sports? It is a good way to meet people. If you are a sporty kind of girl than try to impress guys with your knowledge. Sport is an event of participation and it is much more fun to watch as a group than alone.
Volunteer to work for a non-profit organization
People who are willing to give a little of their free time are often a very caring people, capable of passion and commitment, there are loads of group activity, that means that you can expand your circle of friends with the same interests. There is always the possibility of a relationship is progressing at an early date.
Join on a political campaign group.
If you are politically inclined and have a vested interest in which you are willing to give a little time, this is a good way to find a date. Not only that, but you can be sure that if you have adhered to both fight for the same cause, you have at least one thing in common. If it does not work to find a date that you have lost nothing, but at least they have widened your circle of friends.
Evening course
You do not have to be academic here, it is not necessary to study physics. Find out what you always wanted to learn. Take time to study another language, or do something “arty”. Art classes depending where you live, cover a very broad base of the sculpture, water colors and oil painting. Men can always be found in a classroom about car maintenance.
Take some criticism from friends.
Marketing yourself to find a date is not always easy. Take the advice of some friends who have embarked on a long-term relationship. If you are still attracting the wrong kind of person, ask a friend why he thought that was the case. If you have a healthy emotional life, you should rather on the spot, in a relationship of someone who is evil. Make your own evidence, some women do not really believe they are not worthy of being loved. Boost your self-esteem. If low self-esteem is a problem, then try to look at the lower end.
Enroll in a self-improvement
Men sometimes tend to be more into self improvement than women. However, any organization that has taken the necessary steps to register and participate in this type of activity are probably sensitive, chances are they also seek to interact with other sensitive populations. It’s a great way for men to know how women feel. Be positive, you can not meet the man of your dreams, but will probably increase your self-esteem.
Join in a gym
Even if you are fit and healthy, you can always find men in a gym. If you are not in shape, then fitness is a great way to boost your self-esteem. Being fit gives you a better outlook on life and makes you feel much better. You are also more relaxed when you look your best.
Stand back and take stock
Men are not lost souls, they are not hiding away. You will have much more likely to connect with someone if you are personally satisfied. If you are in sports big time consider competing in a marathon. Take a course in creative writing, to change your career. Spoil yourself, and have some fun
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