Do you make this mistake when your salary is bigger then your husband?

Salary comparison between man and woman in a relationship could be a big trouble. Especially when the woman have more salary than the man. Trust me, even if the man says “it’s ok to have a wife with bigger salary than him” but if the woman push the wrong button, the relationship will be over immediately.

When people ask me, do I have any problem if my wife had a bigger salary? I would say, it will be Okay. But back then, around 10 years ago, when I was dating my wife, I had a salary comparison issue. My date (who happen to be my wife now) work in a top five lawyer office. Mean while, I am just a boy who just start a career as a journalist in a low budget monthly magazine. I still remember how upset I am, when my girlfriend asking to dinner in a first class restaurant. And what makes me upset the most is when she told me that she was going to treat me.

Like it or not comparing a salary between man and woman still unacceptable for most of the man. This happen only if, the salary comparison takes a side on the woman. Is that mean success in career and in a relationship is impossible for to achieve for woman? In this patrilineal, self oriented, male chauvinistic world, I have to say yes. But, until the world equal for every body, I have a few tricks to handle this salary comparison issue foremost in a marriage condition.

Don’t talk about your job over and over

Sure, your husband wants to know your activity, but you should keep the detail within your self. My friend whose married with successful career woman explain, “I am tired hearing my wife talking about her career. Today is about her busy schedule, tomorrow is about work up her career, and the day after tomorrow is about her big project! We just don’t have time to talk about our relationship!” I thing you should remember, you don’t married with your career, right!

Stop comparing your career and his

In any condition, men are furious if he had to dealing with the fact that his woman had a better career than him. Even he is proud with his successful wife, eventually he just a man with his own ego and self esteem. If he talks up your career, just say thanks. And if he starts to talk about his career, try to give him spirit with a supportive tone but not to pushy.

Don’t ever questioning about financial issue

This is a modern era for sure, and it’s okay if one or to times woman treat her man. But remember, to take it for granted. Try not to mention anything about it in the future. Especially when you have a fight. “My wife likes to treat me for dinner and buy me a great expensive stuff. I know, my salary is not as big as her and I can’t do the same thing to her. Is not a problem in the beginning but when we have a fight she tend to bringing up again the money that she spend for me” Said my friend.

Salary comparison could be some thing nice if you know how to do it.

gardino posted this article under dating, relationship, marriage on Sunday, August 19th, 2007 at 9:42 am You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a comment or trackback from your own site. View Technorati Linkbacks.