Almost everyone asks this question at some point in their lives; unfortunately, there are not too many who get a concrete answer. But if you’re reading this article, then you’re one of the lucky few.

Interestingly, the criteria for choosing a spouse can be boiled down to just four characteristics. If you can find somebody with all four then it’s highly likely that you’ve found your life partner.

1) What is This Person’s Core Values?

Before you decide to marry someone, make sure that they are fully committed to some kind of objective moral and ethical standard. Whether we realize it or not, everyone has some kind of core value that is central to their personality. And when push comes to shove, that value is going to be the most important thing in the world to that person.

For example: Jerry’s core value is adventure. When Jerry starts to date Diana, he happens to be volunteering at the local Emergency Room. He goes there every night, holds people’s hands, calms them down. And Diana’s thinking to herself that Jerry must have a heart of gold if this is how he’s spending his spare time. Now, Jerry might really have a heart of gold. But he’s volunteering because of his love for adventure. The ER is filled with action, it’s exciting. So right now,

Jerry’s adventurousness happens to be expressing itself in a kind way. But that could change. Jerry might stop volunteering, and start trying other adventures that Diana may find unpleasant, dangerous, or even unethical.

However, if Jerry’s core value is a commitment to goodness and caring, then everything he does will rotate around that, including his marriage. And Diana will be a very lucky woman if she marries him.

So how do you get to know the true Jerry? Surprisingly, it’s not that difficult. No matter what a person’s core value is, you will see him or her sacrificing for it on a daily basis. If Jerry’s core value is adventure, then he might risk an accident in order to speed through an intersection or arrive late at work because he followed a police chase. If Diana follows him carefully, she’ll see that he places adventure above other important things on his list of priorities.

But if Jerry’s core value is goodness, then Diana will see him give up on certain things in order to be kind. If the waiter mixes up his order, he’ll say thank you and eat the dish anyway. He’ll let the other guy cross the intersection first, or he might be late to work because he drove a little old lady home with her groceries. If Diana follows him carefully, then she’ll see him let go of some of his own desires in order to take care of other people.

So look for someone who is committed at the core to a higher set of values that you can appreciate.

2) Does This Person Treat Others Well?

Number two is obvious: You want to marry someone who is going to take care of you and treat you well. How to figure it out?

Simple. Spend time with this person, and pay attention to how they treat others whom they don’t necessarily care about because they’re not trying to charm them. Do they thank the attendant who pumped gas for them? Are they courteous to people at checkout counters? Do they curse out people who don’t deliver on time, like telephone operators or overworked waitresses? Do they tend to drive aggressively, as if there’s no one else on the road?

Ask yourself questions like these and take note of the answers - because they reflect characteristics that will come out down the line. Most people don’t guard themselves so carefully that they’ll hide how they treat others. So watch them, and you’ll know how they’re going to treat you after you’re married.

3) Do We Communicate Well With Each Other?

In other words, make sure that you understand each other. This may seem obvious, but it’s not. Sometimes you can see a couple in a fight and they argue for an hour, two hours, maybe even overnight. And then, at the end of round 16, it turns out that the whole thing was just a misunderstanding: “Oh, I thought you meant that…That’s not what you meant? Oh, then we agree.”

Although on an occasional basis this can happen to anyone, if it’s happening constantly then it’s not a good sign because that may not change. If you’re constantly misunderstanding each other, then you might want to put this relationship on hold for a while.

4) Are We Physically Attracted to Each Other?

Physical attraction is an essential part of marriage. You cannot marry someone if you aren’t physically attracted to them. And while men arrive at this conclusion somewhat quickly, women should give themselves some more time. Very often, a woman may not feel attracted to a man initially, but after she gets to know him she finds him much more attractive than before.

A word of caution: Although physical attraction is essential, you can’t base a marriage on physicality. Whatever is going on physically is meant to be an expression of something deep that is happening on the emotional and spiritual level.

The rule is - make sure that physical attraction is there, but don’t get swept away by it. The other three characteristics are just as important, if not more so.

So there you have it. The next time you date someone, put what you’ve learned here into practice. It’ll save you a lot of time and heartache, and you might find yourself walking down the aisle faster than you think.

First, you must be honest with yourself, know who you are and what is your personality. This question depends heavily on your self esteem. Always keep in mind a good image of yourself is the very essence of being ready for your love!

Second, Remember that if you’re ready to meet the love of your life, it will not come for you, because everything depends on how you want it to happen. Elders say that when you really want something, the whole universe will help you to make your wish come true.

After you take a good look at yourself, hear what Mother Nature whispers in the ear on finding someone appearance and some physical characteristics that suits you best. Did you know that Soul mate are often look the same one another? This Soul mate may be very different in appearance but keep looking deep inside and you can find something similar? There is no doubt that something called chemistry that makes a soul mate connect and harmonize everything. For example: facial expressions, gestures, reactions.

Obviously that none of us wants to become haunted, obsessed by an ideal of love that never shows up, right? That’s why you have to cut the belt, free your mind of your desire (which has already put to work the invisible engines of the Universe, believe it or not!) and do your usual stuff.

And here comes the tough part: waiting! Wait for a while and let the Nature action for how long as it takes. Take into account that you have already helped Nature with your faith and your strong action. It’s a mutual thing. In love, as in everything, you get what you give.

Finally, let me share a secret with you: Do not tell anyone you are about to meet your soul mate. The deepest desires must not be shared until they are realized. Any interference May disturb you take a good image of yourself, let your desire grow stronger, keep describing in mind about your soul mate, staying focused on what you have to do, let your mind free.

You may hear this very often in our daily conversation:

“Damn, my boss was killing me!” (Well stop whining and get another job, will you!)

“I just wanna scream, The traffic was horrible!” (Well try to move to a country side, this is a modern city get used to it!)

“I didn’t have enough money to pay the bill, all prices are went up!” (You and the rest of the world feel the same way)

“Damn, my candidate fail on the election” (So, all you have to do is just wait another 4 years)

You see the point of the ‘whining’ concept is not about the complain, but its about the ‘no purpose’ concept. Your date is not a trash can. She or he want to release their stress by going out. Then try to fulfill that to keep your date and relationship.

So, if you have a date, or if you are planning to ask some one out just leave whining to 3-year-olds who don’t want to take a bath. And If you’ve got a legitimate complaint, say it clearly and cogently and respectfully and see what you can do to solve the problem. Because the worse part of whining is because it makes you personality looks helpless and weak. And I can a sure you that no body wants to spend the rest of their live with people who have a helpless and weak character.

The important thing

Do you really need a designer clothes? Did you must have a reception in a luxury hotel? The answer for that is no. But some things that you might want to spend money on are for photography and rings. Why? Because these are the two things that stay in touch with you long after the wedding day, so these are things that should be number one on your planning list.

A cheaper ceremony

If you can have an outdoor ceremony, then that may be the least costly way to go. Not only that they are able to take the advantage of nature, but mostly, it will be free of charge. Things that may work are parks and botanical gardens, a friend’s courtyard, and the beaches. Of course, these are rather dependent on the weather, so you need to have a backup plan as well.

Do it on the same spot

The best way to keep your costs low is that make the wedding ceremony and reception on the same area. Even if you have to pay a fee, then it only once. Another way to reduce costs is to have a light reception afternoon cocktail hour, instead of dinner. It can serve snacks and drinks instead of a meal face.

You do not necessarily need a band to keep the fun going well. Find a good master of ceremony (just choose one of your friend who can do it for free) an equipped your wedding with a nice CD or an MP3 player.

Be creative and look before you leave all the things you need for your wedding. You will be surprised the number of things that can be saved. Made your own programs, decorations, and had in a friend’s house for about three thousand dollars.

You May have convinced yourself to do exactly what they said because you love them so much and change a little part of you for them would be just fine. But the truth is changing is not psychologically good if you do it because someone else When ever you change anything about yourself for other person, it will have negative consequences. When you change one thing, May you be asked to amend another and another and another until it comes a point where you do anything or say is never good enough. That’s why this kind of relationship will not survive for a long term.

Whatever change you made for someone else but yourself, it will return at some point, because you are, in essence, squashing the spirit of your real personality. And the essence of your true nature, can not and will not be held for a long time.

Most likely, these changes you have made for “love” will turn out to be anger to your partner. If they do not like who you are, is not your problem, it is theirs. Remember that you choose who you want to be with and vice versa And gently remind them that if those things bother them so much, maybe you both should consider the possibility that the relationship won’t work out because you respect yourself. And it means that won’t change to fit someone else idea of what ideal partner should look like. You are who you are and if they do not like it, they do not need to be with you. If they do not love and accept you as you are, do not be afraid to tell them to take a walk .

Above all, be true to yourself body, mind and soul. You will find that the honour and respect you in that way will soon result in attracting and good health, love and fulfilling relationship as you ever dreamed possible.

Have you seen the movie “Derailed” with Jennifer Aniston and Clive Owens, where he said he could kiss her lips without touching them? Well when women watch that movie, about 80% of them hold their breath and shiver in anticipation (the other 20% say “get it on will you!”) I know it seems odd, but women love the promise, potential and the thrill of anticipation, evidence that the journey is sometimes better than arriving it self.

Press your body against hers (gently).

Ok So you have finally arrived at the moment. Now, pull her body gently, and press your entire body against hers. Slowly! This is the promise, not proof! By using the same principles as the ‘non-kiss, it will tease and not terrorize her.

Go Gentle with the tongue!

Why do guys think most women want a tongue sandwich? Be sure to use your tongue, but use it gently. Do not choke her with it! The tongue can say “the passion, desire and virility” for you, but for her, she might say ‘whoa, waaay too much! ” So let her lead the way. In other words follow her tongue, then gently raise the bid.

Open Lips, Eyes Closed, And Say “Mmmm”

When you talk to her keep in mind that her eyes need to be fully open, but for the kiss, the closing is the way to go. Keep your lips slightly open, warm, and make appreciative noises quietly (no growling, but rather the kind of sigh when you want to drink a good wine - or supping a beer!)

Use your hands wisely

what do you do with your hands? Just flip your hands gently on her back, and then remove yourself from her gently, but firmly. Once again try to follow her lead. Adjust your pressure with hers. It is already tell you everything you need to know, if you listen.

Take a golf course
Golf is a male thing, join them on the course. Men network on the golf course all the time, move forward and make progress to flirt. Even if you are not good in sports, men are more likely to be encouraging to your efforts.

Go to a sport bar in a game night

Why watch major sporting events at home when you can hang out in a sports bar complete with a large screen TV, electronic games sports? It is a good way to meet people. If you are a sporty kind of girl than try to impress guys with your knowledge. Sport is an event of participation and it is much more fun to watch as a group than alone.

Volunteer to work for a non-profit organization

People who are willing to give a little of their free time are often a very caring people, capable of passion and commitment, there are loads of group activity, that means that you can expand your circle of friends with the same interests. There is always the possibility of a relationship is progressing at an early date.

Join on a political campaign group.

If you are politically inclined and have a vested interest in which you are willing to give a little time, this is a good way to find a date. Not only that, but you can be sure that if you have adhered to both fight for the same cause, you have at least one thing in common. If it does not work to find a date that you have lost nothing, but at least they have widened your circle of friends.

Evening course

You do not have to be academic here, it is not necessary to study physics. Find out what you always wanted to learn. Take time to study another language, or do something “arty”. Art classes depending where you live, cover a very broad base of the sculpture, water colors and oil painting. Men can always be found in a classroom about car maintenance.

Take some criticism from friends.

Marketing yourself to find a date is not always easy. Take the advice of some friends who have embarked on a long-term relationship. If you are still attracting the wrong kind of person, ask a friend why he thought that was the case. If you have a healthy emotional life, you should rather on the spot, in a relationship of someone who is evil. Make your own evidence, some women do not really believe they are not worthy of being loved. Boost your self-esteem. If low self-esteem is a problem, then try to look at the lower end.

Enroll in a self-improvement

Men sometimes tend to be more into self improvement than women. However, any organization that has taken the necessary steps to register and participate in this type of activity are probably sensitive, chances are they also seek to interact with other sensitive populations. It’s a great way for men to know how women feel. Be positive, you can not meet the man of your dreams, but will probably increase your self-esteem.

Join in a gym

Even if you are fit and healthy, you can always find men in a gym. If you are not in shape, then fitness is a great way to boost your self-esteem. Being fit gives you a better outlook on life and makes you feel much better. You are also more relaxed when you look your best.

Stand back and take stock

Men are not lost souls, they are not hiding away. You will have much more likely to connect with someone if you are personally satisfied. If you are in sports big time consider competing in a marathon. Take a course in creative writing, to change your career. Spoil yourself, and have some fun

Read “Dating and marriage tips for dummies”

You know the explanation on these step right!

If you are an author of a poetry and she likes your work, you do not need to recite poetry to her on the date to impress her.

Just act normal. The part of you that she loves is the part of you that your own thing.

If you write a personal ad which is very funny and hooks his attention, there is no reason to try to be funny when we talk about it in person. While it is expected that either of you while you set the wrong precedent or she has the wrong idea of how things work.

You are not there to entertain her. I repeat, you are not there to entertain her. And if she leaves because you ceased to entertain (which means that you have set the wrong precedent), or she had the bad idea from the start.

No matter what you are and what you put on “view” that shows your ability is not a concern for her. Being great when do your own thing, but to act normal around her.

1) Maria, Louise, ehmmm…Britney?

Unless you have both agreed to play this in advance, it is a no-no for sure and it is very likely to have problems with your partner. If you are very comfortable together, dropping could boost a little passion in the context of a role-playing game spontaneous, but no matter how long you date is, if it is sounds so natural it will always break their heart.

2) Are you done?

This may disturb people (specially for men) for two main reasons: First, it gives the impression that you are waiting for the experience to be done immediately, and then because a man for much of his sexual act is based around orgasm, and the idea that you do not even know his intense moment of pleasure can take the pleasure out of him.

3) Would you please shut up!

There may be just a few things that can bring greater pleasure than to hear your lover moans of pleasure, but if you make too much additional noise just to make your partner happy. It will kill the passion right away.

4) continues to watching television or reading a book

Come on, your lover wants to feel you shake their world, not what you prefer be watching your favorite soap opera.

5) Pretend they are quite specific character.

Role playing can be fun for both partners, and to enjoy many couples adopting their policeman / woman, a nurse or other fantasies with their partners. You may find your partner is not quite as comfortable if you think they are imagining as your childhood pinup or ex-partner, though.

6) Taking it too seriously

If you accidentally do any of those mistake then make sure you do not do this! Almost all situations in the bed can be laughed off. There is no wrong in having sex, so if you take too seriously, it will spoil the atmosphere, laugh together and share the laughter will make you feel closer.