The art of breaking up
Sometimes the relationships are going no where. It may be your partner fault or your fault. But if it’s time to end your relationship to end, then you sure want to do it fast and properly. This is things that you gave to do:
1) Bring back your personal item A.S.A.P. Because this is things much harder to do after the break. And do it in contrary If your partner has things at your place, wrap it in a box and place them aside. You do not want left something for him / her that makes them need to come back the day after you break up.
2) Keep your friends, and other relative out side. This is just between you and your partner. You became more humiliated if you take them involve.
3)Just in case you are afraid of a scene, then try to break up in a public place like a restaurant. However, do not lure your “will soon be ex-partner” catching a false sign. Make sure he aware that you want to discuss your both future love activity at the first place.
4) Do not expect a “right time”. Do it as fast as you decide it to break-up. Waiting only makes it even more hard to do.
5) Even so, avoid to break up on a day with special significance. For example, do not burst on Christmas Day, Easter, or your ex-partner’s birthday. It is a cruel, and can spoil the day for this person for many years to come.
6) Do not hedge - get to the point. Be clear and precise. Do not blame or claim, and not to prolong the event. Again I say… be strong!
7) Do not break into several stages! Some people fear the feel of losing someone so they try the “serial break.” They start by distant, then they suggest that the two of them see other people, then, they stop answering the phone, etc. Well it just causes more pain for a longer period of time what is needed.
8 ) Be considered your ex-lover’s feelings, but don’t step back. Also, do not promise to stay in touch, remain friends, or perhaps say that you can come back together after you “get your head together.” Because this kind of act will leads to false hopes.
9) Do not place or unload your anger on the person. Be detached, unemotional, and specific.
10) And finally, do not bad-mouth your x once, everything has been resolved. Remember that old saying, “if you have nothing nice to say,” you know the rest.
The fracture is very difficult for both, for the person who doing the break up and for the one who dumped. Always remember that you saw something special to that person when you got together. Regardless of what happened because of the rupture, they are still the same person that you met and they are entitled to their dignity. Be strong, compassion, and to tell the truth. Follow these guidelines, and you have mastered the art of breaking up.
