What Everybody Ought to Know About Romantic Jealousy
A little of the jealousy is normal actually, it was an indication of a healthy and romantic relationship. I can sure you, if you are having a relationship and not feel any jealousy then it was an indication there’s some thing wrong with your romantic life. However there is one point, in which romantic jealousy can become possessive and turn into dangerous position.
Each romantic relationship must be built on a trust. So if a partner becomes extremely jealous, it can ruin the trust and choke the relationship. Actually, the basic feeling behind the jealousy is fear. Normally a partner becomes excessively jealous, if they begin to be afraid that their partner becomes unfaithful. These fears can easily destroy all the trust and all the communication in your relationship.
Amazingly, the root of the fear does not come from the partner, but it rise from the individual experience. It was the experience of being alone. Since this is the fundamental cause of the jealousy, it is important that all people deal with their own personal issues and self-esteem levels before entering into a relationship. When you’re self-confident, and can rest assured that you are a valuable person that contributes a great deal to your romantic life, you can trust that your partner will be faithful to you.
However, there are certain situations where romantic jealousy may begin to destroy a relationship based on past faults. I have a best friend who’s dating for 8 years with the same person and then get married. But, then bad things happen along the way, where her husband turns out cheating on her. After that, even though her husband promise not to cheat again, but she can not build her trust on her husband again. And her marriage sinks in just a few months.
These things may occur if a partner has been unfaithful and both partners are trying to salvage the relationship. Often, things will seem as if they are moving along fine, but it won’t take much before fear and jealousy sets in and the wounded partner begins to become suspicious of their partner. If this describes the situation that you are in, you may find that the best course of action is to attend counseling as a couple. With the help of a counselor, you may find that there are specific strategies that you and your partner can take that will ensure that your relationship begins the healing process that it needs.
If your relationship has suffered infidelity, you must realize that you and your partner cannot simply pick up where you left off before the affair. There must be an active level of communication and healing must take place. Trying to pretend, as if nothing happened, makes only the relationship more difficult on a long-term basis.
When jealousy begins to get out of hand, it is an open doorway for abuse to occur. Whether it is spying on someone’s activities, falsely accusing or blaming your partner, or more serious incidents such as verbal or physical abuse, jealousy can cause detrimental problems to a relationship. It is important that people take responsibility for their own emotions, and jealousy is no exception. If you are suffering from jealousy, you may need to distance yourself from the romantic life until you can get a handle on your feelings.
(On Oct 8th, 2007 at 1:42 am)
yeah..
(On Oct 8th, 2007 at 2:10 pm)
My husband and I have been married for 11 years now. TG we have a very healthy marriage and don’t even have the need to want to make each other jealous about anyone else. Personally i think jealousy is very unhealthy in a marriage and can cause lots of problems. We all know marriage has it’s challenges, but rather concentrate on making your marriage work than not work.