What to do when nobody likes you
Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, other people still don’t like you? Learn what you can do to make friends when it seems as if people do not like you.
Have you tried hard to make friends, just to show a bad result for all of your efforts?
If it seems that you were trying hard to make friends, but other people still do not want to be your friend, you may have reached the conclusion that there is something wrong with you . Maybe you are basically unlikeable.
Many of us go through such agony of self doubt, especially during our years of adolescence, when young people are often victims of vicious bullying their peers for anything.
If you feel as if the people you are trying to help do not like you, the first thing you have to do is ask: Do you have any real evidence that others do not like you?
Or are you just imagine the worst, because you are always very strict with yourself?
People who have low self-esteem or who suffer from depression are often convinced that others do not like them, even when there is no proof of their belief. People who have a poor self-image can be surrounded by others who are like them, care about them, and to enjoy their company, and yet, because these people do not believe they are worthy of being loved, they are convinced that nobody else likes one or the other.
So if you feel as if nobody loves you, find out if there is real evidence that others do not like you, or may be you are simply being very negative of yourself.
On the other hand, there are times when it is not your imagination that others do not like you. It may be true that most people you meet are systematically reject you, even when you are openings social and try to be as friendly as possible for them.
There are many reasons, it can happen.
You may have moved towards a society where people are very tight with each other knit, and they do not open easily to the newcomers. You may be surrounded by people who do not automatically open to people of your religion, ethnicity, sexual orientation, skin colour or physical appearance.
You may be surrounded by people who rejects you because you are wearing clothes that are not the latest and most expensive fashion.
In high school years in particular, many young people are deeply conformist, and can be very cruel for those who seem to be different from the norm. Unfortunately, some people never get out of this stage of judging others for reasons superficial and insignificant.
If you are really rejected by others, it is important not to make things worse by attacking your self. That does make you even more feel bad for your self, and you lose confidence to make a new relation with other people in the future.
If you repeating talk to your self in a negative point of view, it could start on a downward spiral of self-doubt and self-hatred. Or you can trigger your anger in a spirit of revenge against others. This is surely wont give a new friend.
It is also important to take a good, hard look at yourself and how you interact with other people. There may be some specific behaviors that cause others to hate you, and these are behaviors that you can change.
Ask yourself these questions in checklist. While it appears that one of these behaviors is not a problem for you, it is very likely that if you change this behavior, as other people like you are better.
Are you still very negative and complaining all the time? Most people find this really annoying habit.
Did you participate actively in conversations with others? Or do you remember and let others do all the work to make conversation. If so, learn how to improve your conversation skills so that talking with you is an experience that others in a hurry.
Did you ever talk to you and show little interest in the people you talk with? Others will be bored with you very quickly if you seem only interested in yourself.
Are you trying to please too hard for others, always agree with everything they say, and never have any opinions of your own? People do not know you if you do not respect yourself.
Do you keep saying somethings that hurt somebody feelings, and then turn out that you say it was only a joke? Nobody want to make a friend with an unkind person.
If you want to bring other people of your friends, it is very important to give up. Keep seeing people; continue to try to make a nice conversation. Get rid of your bad habits they receive social in the way of friendship.
If you are given the cold shoulder by a large number of people you meet, especially in your school or workplace, to look elsewhere for people that you can confide in and friend. You can try in your church, in your community and in your family.
Work on development of the talents and qualities in you, so that you can use a new way of other people with whom you have more in common. Continue to actively seek out other people who like you and accept you.
Do not give up trying. Continue to work to learn how to make friendly conversation and you will eventually make friends with people who really like you.
